Simply stated, we believe these man-made systems are taking the place of the Holy Spirit in one's life. Here is a snippet from their home page:

After completing a personality profile (I recently completed one to understand the nature of the questions), the mate-seeker is entered into a "patented compatibility matching system." My soul-mate, the one person God has chosen for me since the foundation of the world, will be chosen by a computer. This computer will make selections of potential mates based on personality test responses, which could change from month to month or even day to day depending on the mood I am in, my experiences in recent relationships, how I see myself at the time, and the type of person I'm looking for at the time. So the timing of this personality test is extremely important in determining what matches I will receive. Even if the timing is right for me, who's to say that the matches I receive are inaccurate due to bad timing on the other end? Adding to this is the subjectivity of the test, where answers to questions like "I tend to think 'outside the box'" could vary widely based on interpretation.

But let's assume for now that I answered the personality test with 100 percent accuracy. The computer's "patented compatibility matching system" will only provide qualified matches to my profile. But what if the person God wants me to meet isn't listed in these matches? He could very well want me to meet someone who is not what the computer chooses, but the computer's system puts God in a box. What if God wants me to meet someone who is a completely different personality than the personality the computer decides I need? The computer assumes an outgoing person will match with another outgoing person—but what if God wants me, an outgoing person, to meet a more reserved person? I’ll never find that person if I am depending on a computer matching system.

We should ask ourselves, do we really know who we are as people, and the type of person we need as a partner for life? We think we know, and eHarmony thinks they know, but God knows better. God knows the type of person who would be best for us, and who would help us grow in our relationship with God. We can't whittle this person down into a set of traits that can be matched in a database of names using preset rules. If God chooses to connect two Christians using this service, we believe this is the exception and not the rule.

If God really wants us to meet our soul-mate, wouldn't He just coordinate it, beyond the confines of an online dating computer system? He's big enough to have your mate move across the country to meet you in a supermarket. He's powerful enough to have you bump into your future husband in a large stadium full of people. But the key is His timing, not ours. We can get tempted to use an online dating system like a vending machine to quickly find our future mate: enter your profile, get some names, start dating, meet Mr. Right, and get married. But God is not a vending machine. He wants mate-seekers to wait on Him, and if the timing isn't right just yet, He would have us in the meantime get closer to our husband in heaven, the Lord Jesus Christ.

God will give us the mate we desire, at the right time, as we seek Him and trust in Him instead of in the world's false gods of guidance and help.

Ordering Information